
Happy Birthday to my amazing boyfriend. He's a wonderful person, he treats me so very well and I adore and love the hell out of that crazy, nerdy, funny, charming, intelligent, goofy man. <3>
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I've got a stomach ache and I want more sleep so farewell for now.
Have a great Thursday and (if I can't get?on tomorrow) a great weekend!!!
I got the book "Supersex" by Tracey Cox sent to me by the wonderful people at Tabu Toys recently.
It's a soft cover book with a sexy cover. Just a look at the cover and a flip through the glossy pages had m anxious to see what the book had to offer.
The book starts with instructions on how to touch your partner. It's really basic stuff. For me, I took nothing new away from it. For someone new to exploring sex or just someone shy or inexperienced, it would be great.
Same goes for the next section on teasing your lover. Nicely written but very basic. In the tease section, there's a few pages on Single Sex Vs Couple Sex. That whole thing just annoyed me greatly. I found the ideas in it to be mostly ridiculous in my own opinions. Sure, for a lot of people I'm sure it's true but for me? Ridiculous. Example?Then there's the guide on how to strip. I read it and I giggled through out it. If someone stripped for me the way the book instructs, I would laugh because it seems more like a script for a scene in a movie. Or maybe I'm simplistic in the way I dress as I don't go out wearing skirts, heels, garter belts, hose and the whole shebang for a normal day out. Of course if you plan in advance to be doing this strip show later, wearing all of that would make sense. It also seems too cliche and a bit over done though and that for me takes away some of the strip tease appeal.I like something that doesn't look like it was planned down move by move.
Something else that irked me was that as a woman, you ABSOLUTELY HAVE to give a man blowjobs. If you don't he will lose interest and move on to someone who will. Or if you're in a relationship, he'll just get from someone else the blowjob you're not giving him. According to the book. Sounds silly to me. Maybe if you're just dating around and not serious with someone, possibly that works. In a marriage or long term relationship? If that's a deal break then.... *sigh*
The "sure-thing sex positions" displayed in another section of the book look pretty cool though they aren't anything new and spectacular. You need to be in good shape to do most of them though and though they look cool, I'm not sure how good they would be for a prolonged period of time. Worth trying perhaps but I think I'll be passing on most of them. Some look more painful than pleasurable and others look like they'll be more effort to get into than they would be worth, lol.Something else that annoyed me throughout the book? Seeing things like this. "sennnnnnsational", "Imagine how I felt!!!!!!", "Oooooowwwweeeeee" and stuff like that. I think on a blog, that's cool. I get the author was just trying to sell a point, just how good or bad something was but I don't know. It's not something I expect to see in a published book. I'm possibly just being a bit if a grammar nazi though.
At the start of the book in the introduction, the author states that it would be a good book whether you're heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. I don't find that to be very true. It offers only pictures of a male and a female together. All the tips and scenarios are her pleasing him or him pleasing her. It doesn't offer anything specifically geared to anyone who isn't straight and doesn't cover anything about being the slightest bit curious about your own gender.
Also, there is a whole section that tells you how to analyze if a person is good in bed by paying attention to how they touch you, how the eat and drink and things like that. Seriously? I'm a very polite eater. I enjoy my food but I don't delve into it with crazy abandon. If one were to judge how I am in bed by watching me eat, they would think I was boring in bed mostly and occasionally sensual. I'm not the slightest bit boring so I found that section a bit bogus to say the least. I believe we can learn a lot from body language, daily interactions and from watching people act but I don't think that's applicable to everything.
The writer is a bit witty and shares a few personal stories through out the book. The things she shared tended to be a little amusing but it's always nice (in my opinion) to read about the lighter, amusing side of sex.
I had a difficult time finishing this book. I had to really push myself to finish reading several of the sections and more so I had to stop myself from skimming briefly instead of really reading it. I find a lot of things in the book to be black and white and in my opinion, there are a lot of grey areas to sex, intimacy, relationships, etc. It is informative and there is a ton of information in it. The book details a lot of things and covers a wide variety of topics including teasing, masturbation, oral sex, insecurities with your body, kinks and playing with sex toys. Though it doesn't get too in depth with a lot of subjects, just covers to basics and gets you a good idea of what you need to know. Other sections are very in depth. Despite all the depth and the wide variety of subjects, I still find the book overall to be a little one sided, black and white, whatever you want to call it.I did like how everything was broken down in to sections. The structure of the set up is pretty cool. It flows easily from section to section and again, the pictures rock.
Personally, I might thumb through certain sections again but I probably won't touch this book again now that I'm done reading it for this review. I didn't learn anything new from it's 180+ pages though but I've read, explored and experienced a LOT. For someone younger and new to exploring things it would be great. A beginner how to book with lots of artful and stunning pictures. It reads a lot, in my opinion, like a huge compilation of sex and how to articles out of Cosmopolitan magazine. Just with more details and erotic pictures. I give it a 3 on a scale of 1 to 10.
Thanks to Tabu Toys for the book! Oh and if you enjoy reading or participating in online forums, check out the Tabu Forums here!
I'm typing this out before I go to bed because I don't want to fool with writing something before work in the morning. I'm also watching The Dark Knight for the 30th or so time. ;) <3>
Something I totally want to bitch about before I end this post though... I hate when you have a co-worker who acts all high and mighty about their job. Acting like they do some great service and should be worshipped for what they do like they aren't getting paid and aren't getting anything out of doing what they do. It annoys the hell out of me. I just want to slap some people some times. Hello, it's a job and we're serving food and drinks here in my line of work. Not ending world hunger, giving world peace, finding a cure for cancer or even doing any bit of good to anyone really. There's no need to act like you're doing something like that and go on about how good you are, how much better at your job than you are over everyone else, how you deserve this that and the other thing because you do this that and this. Blah blah blah. Shut up and just do your job already. And most of the times, the ones who boast and whine the most really aren't very productive employees and shouldn't be running their mouths anyway. Just sayin'. I'm done now.
Happy Monday!
So I woke up today and was lounging around in bed, just stretching and waking up. I grabbed my phone and was playing around on it. Then I realized, fuck, it's almost my birthday. Seriously, my birthday is tomorrow. Where the hell did the weekend go? I still was thinking my birthday was several days away but yeah, definitely not. My sense of time is a little fucked lately. The days are going by too quickly because I'm so wrapped up inside everything going on in my head and trying to make some sense of things that I'm letting the days fly by. I need to step outside my head a little more. Those issues will get resolved eventually so no need to go missing out on things because I'm too busy camping in my brain, right? Right.
So for my birthday plans tomorrow. I miss Dallas, horribly. There are tons of things to do there, even on a Monday night. The area I'm staying in right now? There isn't much to do on weekends let alone on a Monday night. So, I'm going to dinner with family and my boyfriend. Then we're going to go bowling I think since that's an activity we can all find fun and amusement in. Even though I suck unless I'm tipsy or drunk. I'm not a good sober bowler. After that, just back to the house and maybe watching a movie I love or something. The 3 bars in the town I live in aren't open during the week and if they are, you wouldn't be able to tell from the looks of things. So for the first time in a LOT of years, I'm going to have an easy going birthday and not party. Though not by choice so no accusing me of getting older and more responsible and crazy shit like that. ;)
Now I need to stop all this typing and get ready to go to work. Woohoo. Then I have to work at 11 AM tomorrow. Bleh. I asked for a day time shift though as opposed to my regular night shift, so I could have the night off to enjoy my birthday.
Boyfriend and I were sitting around last night after work chatting about a lot of nothing.A book he was reading was sitting on the kitchen table and I picked up the business card that he's used as a bookmark for several years. It's got his name on it though he hasn't worked for the company it's from in a couple years. I laughed, a little surprised, mentioning how I couldn't believe he still used that thing as a bookmark. He just laughed and said some how it's the only thing he's been able to hold on to and not lose in terms of "bookmarks" which made me think... I have a problem with losing bookmarks. I've made several using construction paper or even notebook paper all doodled up. I've purchased many bookmarks over the years too. I have none. I always always always manage to lose them some how. I haven't purchased one in about a year now because after I managed to lose the last one I got, I said fuck it. Now I just use random papers to save my place and it's not ever the same random paper for very long.
Today is 22's birthday. Maybe I should change his blog nickname to 23 since he's now 23? Lol. Probably not. ;) Which means today is the 9th and my birthday is only 6 DAYS AWAY now. I'll be 24. Yeah, my brother 22 and I aren't even a full year apart in age. Don't say anything about the amount of time between are births, please and thank you in advance. Think all you want but just don't say anything, lol.
I had the strangest dream the other night. Like, weird even by my standards and trust me, I have some crazy weird fucking dreams. Check out the "dreams" link in my label cloud if you're new to the blog and want to see for yourself. This dream I won't be posting here though. I did write it out in Microsoft Word and saved it away though. I might be using it in a writing project I've started so hey, maybe you'll read about it one of these days anyway. If you so choose to do so. ;)
Happy Tuesday!
I some how stumbled across this website. I have no idea how. I wasn't looking up anything involving beards or facial hair at all. I wasn't looking up anything about odd competitions either. Seriously, I have no clue how I wound up there but I did. I clicked around and all I can say is wow, lol. Some of the facial hair on display there... I have no words for. C'mon, you know you're curious now. Go ahead, check it out. ;)
My friend and I know were talking briefly the other day before I had to leave for work on yahoo! messenger. She was telling me about a recent episode she had while hooking up with a new guy. They had gone on around ten dates thus far and hooked up four times. The hooking up that had gone already was a lot of making out, fondling, groping, fingering and oral sex. Finally on Friday night, they were taking things further and going to go ahead and fuck. Fun huh? So they're getting busy with foreplay and clothes are flying off here and there. Tongues are getting their workouts and hands are wandering like mad. Finally, they're naked and he's getting ready to penetrate her pussy. She's waiting anxiously as he gets the condom out and then suddenly, his dick softens. It doesn't go completely flaccid but it's not hard enough for sex anymore. She said he immediately apologized profusely and said he would get it hard again. She said after that, the first thing that popped into her mind was this song.....
Yeah, seriously. So after that popped into her head at the moment, she started hysterically laughing at the ridiculous timing of that song popping into her mind. Seriously, can we say BAD TIMING people? So of course, the guy is thinking she is having a laughing fit over his cock and gets a little annoyed and a little upset thus completely deflating his cock. She tried to explain but for some reason kept laughing. She got a hold of herself well enough to explain why she was having a laughing fit and she said after the explanation, he relaxed and had a laugh about it too. Then they got serious again, starting the foreplay over. This time, his cock didn't freak out with performance anxiety at all and they were very satisfied, relaxed folks half an hour later.
I think it's the best thing ever when you can have a moment like that with someone and then work it out and get back to the fun stuff. He could have taken her reaction very badly and gotten up and left. Or started an argument. Instead, they both laughed things off and gave it another go. I personally think it's important to be able to not take yourself too seriously all the time and be able to laugh at yourself as far as sex is concerned.
Anyway, I've been meaning to post this for months but I keep forgetting. I remembered now since I had to go on YouTube for the above video. ;) I DON'T like this song or video. All I can say is WTF. ;) Lol.
I DO however like this song. ;) It makes me laugh but I also like the way that man thinks. Maybe not the Jell-O in the tub thing because I'm not a big Jell-O fan and wouldn't want to be covered in it. The upside down thing I don't think would work out so hot because I'd get a little dizzy and uh other problems might occur but the rest is all good. ;)
Happy Monday Y'all!
I was lame such a nerd and got totally excited when I saw the Google design today celebrating 25 years of Tetris. That game has been one of my absolute favorites since I was a little kid and I still love it now, lol. I've had it on most of my cell phones and play it a lot when I want to zone out amd ignore everything around me for a bit. <3>
First I want to encourage y'all to go read something and then go vote. Go to Mojo's blog and read this post. That post will take you here and PLEASE go vote in the most inspiring blog category for Violence UnSilenced. VU is an amazing blog giving survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault an avenue to speak out and more importantly, reach out to others. They offer help resources as well. It's a wonderful blog and it's been nominated for a most inspiring blog award. I think it totally deserves the nomination. Check out Mojo's post on the nomination and then go vote! Check out VU's website as well. It's worth all the effort it will take. Besides, it shouldn't take more than a couple minutes. =)
Anyway......
I take pretty quick showers. If I take a long shower, it's a 15 minute shower. I can't really stand staying in there much longer. Which is odd because I love being in water and I actually love taking a shower. It's almost like a sanctuary for me. I sing, I clean, I do some deep thinking. I relax and enjoy but I don't like being in there for all that long. I'm good with about 10 minutes usually. When I'm in hotels though, I take long ass showers. I'm talking 30 minute showers or longer. I have no idea why I like to take such long showers in hotels. It's not because I'm not paying for the water. I don't pay a water bill now. It's not because the shower or bathroom is all that much nicer than one I have at home. It's definitely not that the mini shampoo, conditioner and body wash provided by the hotel are better than the expensive, awesome products that I buy for myself. I really don't know why but get me in a hotel shower and I'll take way too long in there, mostly just standing under the water thinking and stretching.
I love the smell of fresh baked bread. I love the taste of fresh baked bread too. Fresh baked scones rock pretty hard too. Yum.
I found out the complex pools won't be open until the end of fucking June. Seriously. They have to drain them and have some work done on them and it will be end of June possibly before they can get them filled and open again. Now I have to find somewhere else to go swim. Grrr. Seriously, why did they not get the work done all Winter? Or hey, start it when Spring started? Why wait until the end of MAY to start getting the work done? Lame. Hehe.
Okay so I took like a hundred little quizzes on Blogthings because I was bored and haven't messed around on there forever. They're amusing enough and sometimes they're even accurate... ish. ;)
You Are Medium Maintenance |
![]() Like everyone else, you have some things you are particular about. You're not too annoying about it, and you're able to go with the flow most of the time. You've learned to stand your ground on what matters but also make compromises from time to time. You have good taste. Too bad not everyone shares it. |
You Are a Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwich |
![]() You life your life in a free form, artistic style. You are incredibly creative and at times, quite messy. Deep down, you are a kid at heart. And you aren't afraid to express it. Your best friend: The Grilled Cheese Sandwich Your mortal enemy: The Club Sandwich |
You Are Highly Spiritual |
![]() You may not have found the meaning of life, but you try to approach it with as much optimism as possible. You are always enthusiastic and grateful for every day you have. You are cheerful and energetic. You are a do-gooder who likes to keep busy. You are outgoing and carefree. You embrace life to the fullest. |
You Are Highly Authentic |
![]() You're as real as they come... and quite modest too. You are very self-assured, and you have a healthy amount of self-esteem. You feel confident that you can take on the world. You are have a great sense of humor, especially when it comes to laughing at yourself. |
You Are a Banana Split |
![]() Fruity, flavorful, and diverse. Who can beat a true superstar? |
You Are Champagne |
![]() Your holiday personality is celebratory. In other words, you love to drink! For you, the holidays are a time to let loose and enjoy yourself. You figure they only happen once a year, so why restrain yourself? |
Your Psyche is Red |
![]() You are bright, bold, energetic, and intense. Your upbeat, zany energy inspires those who are down. Spontaneous and playful, you also have a courageous and fearless side. When you are too red: you are angry, overprotective, and truly scary. When you don't have enough red: you are depleted and lifeless. |
Your Passion is Yellow |
![]() You're a total sexual shape shifter. You possess a complex sex drive and are very adaptable. Of all the colors, you are the most likely to be bisexual. While you the most passionate, you are also very open minded. |
You Are Thick-Skinned |
![]() People may not always love you, but that's totally fine. You're happy with who you are, and you don't really crave outside approval. You love yourself, and that's the most important thing. You have high self esteem. And because you don't care what other people think, they tend to like you a lot! |
You Are Bicycling |
![]() You are an energetic, driven person. You try to live a good life. You are industrious and determined. You happily and willingly do hard work. You are deeply philosophical. You are concerned with doing things the best way. You love freedom to explore and experiment. You don't like rules. |
You Are Raspberry Chocolate Lip Gloss |
![]() You tend to approach life as a fun game - being playful at every turn. You're a flirt with flair, and your the type most likely to surprise your date. But you're popularity doesn't stop with guys... you've got a great group of girlfriends too! You're fresh, aggressive, and more than a little sassy. The tangy taste of raspberry and watermelon goes great on your lips. |