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Before I get into this post, I have two things I want to cover then we'll get to the dirty laundry, so to speak. First, thanks to everyone that commented, emailed, texted and tweeted me after reading my emotional mess of a post from yesterday. I appreciate so many people relating and reaching out. :)
Secondly.... You know what's coming.... Only 10 days left to make a paypal donation to my Toys for Tots fundraiser. I'm sure y'all are sick of seeing me talk about it but oh well. :) December 16th is the last day I'm taking donations via paypal unless you email with a reason why you need an extra day or two which has happened several times before. It only takes a few dollars to help out a really great cause and I do all the toy shopping so you can donate toys without having to go shop for anything yourself. So come on, $5 or $10 isn't that much and it's for a great cause. Please help out if you can. Thanks to everyone who has donated and all who have helped spread the word thus far. It's greatly appreciated. :D Now, on to the post.....
I have two friends that never fail to make a group outing awkward. He was my friend first but then she sort of just fell into that category by default of always being with him once they started dating. I used to have a lot of fun hanging out with them and inviting them out with other friends of mine. But... They've been together for quite a while and they've gotten to where they fight a lot. They have no problem airing out their dirty laundry in front of everyone. It's rare that I'll go out with them any more just because I know they will make snide, passive aggressive remarks to one another all night and then end up having a serious argument. Which in turn becomes them either ignoring each other the rest of the outing or spending it making snarky and at times, down right mean comments in each others' general direction.
It's flat out awkward and generally unpleasant being around two people who act that way all the time. That's too much drama for me so I don't hang around them often any longer. The female half of the couple noticed and had no issues asking about why I don't seem to like hanging out with them anymore. I told her bluntly that it seemed that way because I didn't enjoy being around them and explained very honestly why.
Of course, she didn't react very well to the blunt honesty I served up nor did she appreciate the answers I gave to the few questions she ended up asking. But that's not my problem.
I feel like personal and serious issues should be kept between you and your significant other. I don't mean you should never talk about it with other people. I have friends I bitch and vent to at times when I need to. It's good to have people to talk to when you need to about things like this. Whether it's to obtain advice or just blow off steam, it's good to have a friend or three you can vent to. I don't get why some people like to advertise all their personal problems to everyone be it by causing scenes in public constantly or posting something on Facebook or Twitter every time.
Once in a while, I get it. If it's something that's not a big deal, I can also understand. Like bitching about how your significant other always gets out a new roll of toilet paper but just sets it on the counter as opposed to changing out the empty roll. Or complaining about how they don't clean out the sink after they shave or any other little minor annoyances like that. But with these two, it happens all the time and it's rarely over anything minor. It might start that way but then they start dragging out the serious shit and that's where it gets really awkward and unpleasant more than it already is. They do the same thing on Facebook and Twitter as they do when they go out in groups to hang out with friends. Passive aggressive tweets taking shots at one another over social media or sometimes just openly taking shots at each other and putting all their business out there. I can tell you more than I care to know about their finances, bad habits, sex life and tons of other things just from having them argue in front of me and across social media as well. And that seems really unhealthy to me. And for a lot of people around them, it's just awkward and unpleasant to deal with. And makes them want to spend less time around said couple to avoid having to sit there staring at their phone or trying to make conversation with someone else whilst trying to ignore the argument going on in front of them over a dinner table in a restaurant. Or when it happens on Twitter, I just want to tell them to shut up and stop fighting on there, too. Instead, I mute them so I don't have to see that crap in my timeline but don't have to deal with two friends being butthurt over me unfollowing them. And I know some people would say to just drop them as friends and really, I wouldn't mind not speaking to her again but him, I adore. When he's not around her and he's acting like a more sane person. He's a really great friend, truly, and those aren't easy to come by.
I get pissed off at my boyfriend when we're out in public at times. Sometimes it happens when we're with friends or around family even. but I don't ever go off on him in front of anyone else, no matter how bad I want to or how pissed I get. Our problems are no ones business except our own. Which is also why I don't blog or tweet about our issues or the things he does that piss me off. I don't outright call him out or post passive aggressive crap on any venue of social media. That's between us and I don't need to tell the world when he's done something that pissed me off or acted like an ass about something. Much in the same way he never does that to me when I've acted like a jackass, pissed him off or lost my temper over something silly. I hate arguing in front of people because I don't want to make them uncomfortable and I don't like people being involved for the most part in my relationship problems. I understand that everyone else isn't like that and some people have no issues fighting in front of other people and letting everyone know what their problems are. I just really don't get that when it comes to serious and personal issues.
So if anyone is still reading this at this point, what's your view on this? Not my friends and not my boyfriend and I but just your general views on airing out your dirty laundry so publicly. Something you do sometimes, not at all, why, etc.
All is well at work again. Well, in the sense that what the electrical fire fucked up is all well again. (Thanks for the comments & emails on that by the way y'all!) Working fine and dandy and blah blah blah. I wanted to put some bitches through a window last night during my shift but mercifully, I was only surrounded by those idiots for a short 5 hour shift. I'm talking about some co-workers here. Oy.
One girl has such a major attitude problem. She thinks she's a super badass. She's that girl who goes off on anyone who pisses her off. "Bitch, I'll kick your ass! C'mon, lets fucking go!" She's also the crazy little pill popper who only really goes off like that when she's out of pills to pop. She didn't have any last night. She was going crazy on three of the guys.
Two other girls are the types of people who adapt their personalities to whomever they are around. They were both glued to the first girl most of the night and adapted her "I'm a fucking badass" personality. They were also all, "Oh you wanna see me get hostile, lets fucking go assholes, I'll get hostile!"
SO FUCKING ANNOYING. Especially since not a one of those 3 has ever been in a real fight before. It reminds me of a chihuahua. Lots of yip and bark but you could end it all with one good kick. I wouldn't kick a chihuahua mind you. Or any other animal. That's fucked up. My point there is if you were to punt one like a football, it would run off injured, licking it's wounds and glaring at you. Those girls would get their asses handed to them if they ever actually tried to put their hostile little words into actions.
So they were giving the guys hell. Mainly mad that the guys from the kitchen wouldn't do their jobs and do stuff for their girls. Make them food, do some of their work too, etc etc. One of the guys in particular (whom I adore) is a smart ass little shithead (whom I adore I tell you!) and wasn't having any of their bullshit. He went off one the ring leader bitch. Another one of the guys began to back him up. The other two follower girls proceeded to jump all in it and it was a verbal smack down. The guys won. The girls had nothing. They were being stupid, lazy little bitches. They had nothing going for them. "Oh boohoo, you actually have to come to work and do more than stand in the corner talking and giggling together." Yeah. I feel so sorry for you. Not.
I'll NEVER in my life understand people like them. I cannot imagine going into my job, clocking in and then getting pissed off when I actually had customers to handle and things to do. I can't imagine being outraged because someone else wouldn't do their work plus some of my work while I stood around giggling, talking and sending text messages. I just can't fathom where people like this get off thinking the way they do. It's fucking work. You're there to *GASP* do some WORK. Not stand in the corner and socialize giggling your butt off. Not snack all night long. Not text and talk on your cell phone all night. Not expect your co-workers to do your work for you.
I get it, in a sense. I get what they're doing. I get these girls in particular are lazy and spoiled and want the world handed to them. I get that. I just don't get it. Which makes me want to smack them in their big dumb faces.
Though I don't ignore them. No sir. One of the girls asked one of the guys in the kitchen to get her some ice for the drink station. It's not a daunting task. Full, the ice bucket probably weighs a whopping 10 pounds. Woohoo. So she asked him to get it, while he's grabbing a handful of dirty things to go wash. He says no. She gives him puppy dog eyes and asks again. He just stares at her, grabbing another pan to wash and says no again.
"Fine, fuck you, you asshole," she spits out as she stomps off to do her job for herself.
"Yeah, what an asshole, not wanting to do your job for you so you can sit and do nothing. What a dick." My snazzy little comment.
Follower Girl 1 asked me what I said. She heard me, I know she did. "I said I can see how he's being an asshole, not wanting to do y'alls work and do his own at the same time, what a dick that makes him."
She eyes me and said, "Gee, I detect some sarcasm there."
I laughed. "Me? Sarcastic? Nah."
"Yeah. Rii-ight."
I'm being sarcastic and serious at the same time. She gets it. She glares at me. Ring Leader goes back by with her ice and eyes me but doesn't say anything.
Things go on in this similar fashion. Those 3 girls go on with their whining, complaining and bitching at people. They're being obnoxiously loud. Two of the guys continue not backing down from these 3 girls when the girls talk shit to them or jump their case for some reason. I only made two other patronizing sarcastic remarks at points when I had really had enough of hearing them and their bullshit.
The other thing that gets me, pisses me off really. Our assistant manager was around when everything was happening. One of the times with ring leader girl and her followers actually got very loud with the sarcastic guy. He refused to do something for them. They wanted him to deliver food for them while they all stood in a corner carrying on a conversation. He said no and went back on to the kitchen to make more food. This outraged them. Ring leader was very loud, obnoxious and threatening to kick his ass. I'm sure he wasn't scared one bit. He said as much.
"You don't wanna fuck with me. I'll kick your ass. I'll show you a bitch! You don't wanna see a bitch."
He laughed. "You're here, I've seen a bitch all night."
Then she flipped out.
Personally, had I been the one in charge, I wouldn't have let it go on until that point. I wouldn't let those girls act the way they acted all night. I wouldn't have let the hostility and confrontations go on like they did. Some fuckers would have been clocking out and going home if they didn't get their act together and do what they were there getting paid to do.
No, my pothead manager was pissed off and not in a good mood. He was tired. He didn't wanna be at work. He was worn out. He was ready for Monday to be here to start his 2 day off rest period after working monstrous 9 to 10 hour shifts 5 days in a row. So he ignored it all and didn't say shit to anyone. He sucks, by the way. It's laughable. He wonders why people don't take him seriously. I won't even get into talking about him that much. He would be his own post and be longer than this one already is. I just don't get how he could even ignore all of that. I mean I get how he ignored it all. Block it out, great. Seriously though. I'm sure some customers heard some of the shit that was being yelled said and that's not good for business. It's not good for the other employees to be around because it's annoying or stressful to them, depending on how they react. It's also not good to let employees think they can act that way and get away with it.
Of course, that's all just my opinion. ;) On to a happier subject though eh?
Saturday night after work, I was on the phone with my boyfriend. We were working online together trying to take over the world find the cheapest and best possible airfare. Mmm yes. I'm going to get to see him in about a month, for 9 days! OMG. I'm so happy and excited. He is as well, of course. So in about a month, I will have him for 9 days and 8 nights. By the end of summer, we should be back in the same state and living together again. Funny, one of the things I was so anxious about (living with him) is now something I seriously am looking forward to again. I was weird about it at first but we just work so well together. We have our rough patches and some bad times but thus far, even with the distance recently, we always make it through. He gets me so well, it's a little scary sometimes but it's great also. I've never had someone understand me the way he does. Awww. =)
My Stars play e San Jose Sharks tonight. We really, really need a fucking win. The last few games for us... we haven't been doing so hot. Our last game against the Sharks... We outplayed them in every fucking way except one. We didn't score against them like we should. Stars lost that one. Like I said, we really really really need the win tonight. The points race is so fucking close in our conference. I opted to pick up an extra shit and work tonight. I LOVE my hockey. Y'all know this. I need money more than I need to sit at home on my ass watching a game though. I really had a hard time deciding if I'd pick the shift up or not though since Tuesday is my day off. I get Wednesday off too though so I figured what the hell, I need the extra hours. I'll be wearing one of my Stars tees under my work shirt though. GO STARS!
I was seriously amused by an email I got from someone. The song I posted here is apparently "devil music" and I'm "white trailer trash" who is "spreading the word of evil Satan through the blogging community" by "posting the evil garbage" that I "think qualifies as music" on my blog. Also, I need "to go to a CHURCH asap" to "save" myself "before it's too late" because I'm well on my way to becoming "Satan's Spawn" so apparently some one's fucking the devil and trying to pawn me off as their kid or something. Oh and the email wasn't meant as insulting. The person was "just trying to help move" me "in the right and proper direction" since I'm going the wrong way. I thought about replying and asking if it was a prank or if whoever this person is was for real. Then I decided it was funny either way. One way would just be more funny than the other. So, I don't care. I do find it amusing when do good religious folks resort to name calling ( white trailer trash, Satan's Spawn!) and then think that they're doing good by being judgmental pricks. Not saying that all religious folks are like that because I'm not so closed minded to believe that and I just know better anyway. The ones who are like that? They can go suck something large and phallus shaped right after they shove their name calling and judgments up their asses. That is if they can get anything up there with their heads in the way. ;) Oh and really... out of all the stuff I've posted and some of the other songs I've pimped out on here, that was the worst? Tickled, that I am. ;)
Hey don't forget to go play Wednesday Weirdness tomorrow! I'm in charge of thinking up the questions. I'll have them posted today, shortly. You know, for those who wanna jump the gun and do the questions early or just get things set up for tomorrow. ;)
My friend VanillaCoke and I were chatting on Yahoo! IM late Monday night. Technically, it was Tuesday morning since it was at 12:30 AM but whatever. If I haven't gone to bed yet, it's still night for me. I don't care if the sun is about to come up. I digress. She was up late "working on a paper" for a class and I had just gotten home from work shortly before I had signed on. She was telling me that she's contemplating deleting her MySpace and Facebook accounts. I inquired as to why she would do that. She said because they both cause too much drama in her life. That social networking sites are only good for causing drama. I disagree. I have other friends who say the same thing. Hell, I have family members who say that same thing. Not to mention the handful of people I work with who all say MySpace, Facebook and other social networking websites are just full of drama. Again, I disagree.
I use MySpace. I'm on there damn near every day. I've moved a lot. To the tune of 20+ times. I don't know. I lose count and I forget. I wasn't even old enough to remember some of the moves but I count them since my baby butt was part of them. I've made a lot of friends and have them scattered out all over the place. I've had other friends move away for school, to move back to where they were originally from, move for jobs, move for a significant other, etc. I use that social networking website to help keep in touch with those friends in a fun way. I have 300+ friends and acquaintances on there and it's never caused me an ounce of drama personally. It's not the website that causes the drama. It's the people using it who cause the drama.
I used to have a lot of drama and a lot of controversy going on in my life. Most of it wasn't mine. Some of it was but not the majority. Most of it was drama my friends were dealing with that I was present for and always got roped in to. Even when I said, "Leave me out of it!" it didn't always end up working that way. These days, I stay the fuck away from people who thrive on drama. I don't mess with the shit much anymore. I don't mind a little now and again but I don't want it filling my days. Fuck that.
So VanillaCoke asked me why I disagreed with her theory on social networking websites being only good for drama. I explained how very little of a dramatic effect it has on my life. I explained my point that I can't seem to stress enough. The website doesn't cause the drama, the people do. The website gives them a venue to do it but it's only a means to an end. If people are going to stir shit up, they're going to stir shit up. Those websites are just another location for it to happen in. Another place to enable them to do it. Truth be told, it's probably easier too for the people. It's online and you don't have to be ballsy enough to say the shit you're saying to someone's face. You can post a comment, send a message, post a bulletin for all to see. You can say what you want. Whatever your Internet Balls allow you to say as you type away on your keyboard hidden behind your big bad monitor as you sit snugly in your house. Things that you wouldn't dare have the balls to say to that person's face. Sure, it's easier and lots of people are more compelled to sack up and spew shit online because they don't have to immediately face any confrontation or consequence. Still, it's the people and not the website.
You don't want to deal with the drama anymore? Don't delete something you enjoy because you think it will erase the drama. If you keep those people in your life, it's going to surface somewhere else. The he said she said and the she said that she said that she said shit will happen. It might take you longer to hear it but that bullshit is still going to happen. Deleting a venue for it isn't going to remove it from your life if you're keeping the people around who are the cause, the source, the root of the issue. You don't even really have to remove a person from your life to get rid of the drama. Tell them to keep their bullshit to themselves. Ignore it if it doesn't involve you. There are lots of ways around dealing with it. Don't make a social networking website, a blog, a chatroom or any other online venue to be the bad guy though. Make the person flailing their fingers across the keys the one accountable for their actions.
At the end of the conversation with VanillaCoke, we still didn't see eye to eye on things but that's cool. I don't need her to think that my way is the right way and she doesn't need me to think her way is the right way. Maybe her way of deleting her social networking website accounts and removing her instant messaging software from her computer will work out the way she hopes it will.
