Good news & more!

Thank you to the people that have donated something to the Toys for Tots fundraiser. If you haven't and want to, there's still time to get a donation in! :) Every little bit helps. $3 or $5 isn't much but it will buy something. The post stuck on the top of the blog is updated with pictures of the toys I went and got with my money and a little detail on what I spent and how much the items cost. It really doesn't take much. :) And if you don't donate to my fundraiser, it's never too late to find a good cause and do a little good for someone else. :)

I'm not feeling so well today. Actually, the last few days I haven't been feeling so well but I've been taking some stuff so hopefully that helps combat this cold or whatever the fuck it is.

I have some good news from the work front. I'm a supervisor now. I'm also going to be coordinating events and helping with promotions and marketing. Yes, that comes with more pay. I wouldn't take on more work and responsibility without getting paid more. That would be dumb. Also on the good news front, the Boyfriend and I should be able to move out and back into our own place sometime in January. Hopefully. I cannot wait. I miss having my own place and I seriously dislike so much about my living situation currently. I can hang another month or two. :D Also, I'm thinking I might have things in order enough to start classes back up next Spring. I just have to keep doing what I'm doing. And keep being patient, which isn't always easy for me, lol.

The Stars play the Carolina Hurricanes tonight. They have won the last 3 (one against the Senators and 2 against the Blues) games they've played so hopefully they keep the winning streak alive and beat the Canes tonight. Which reminds me! I had to go in to Wal-Mart a few nights ago after work. I went to the one right by my job instead of waiting and going to the one closer to my house. The one close to work is in a nicer neighborhood, lol. I digress. I live in Dallas. I was walking by the clothes section on my way to a different section and some Stars pajamas caught my eye. I went to look and you know what else I saw?



Canes pajama bottoms in a Dallas Wal-Mart? WTF? And it's not like they had other teams besides the Stars and the Canes bottoms. The Stars bottoms make total sense. The Canes? Don't get it. They also have Cowboys, Mavs and Longhorns apparel over there, too. Which made sense since they're all Texas teams. Canes bottoms made me chuckle and shake my head. I posted it on Tumblr and amused several people there. Maybe there's a huge secret Canes following in North Dallas? Doubtful. The Wal-Mart by my house doesn't have any Canes bottoms or any apparel by non-Texas teams. Anyway, back to the game tonight. Dallas is currently in FIRST place in the Pacific Division. Third place in the Western Conference. And 11th overall in the league. Kickass. It's so close in points, though. Also, still early in the season and too early to be getting excited about that. They just need to keep winning and keep stacking the points on. Sounds like a good idea to me. GO STARS!

Moving on.

This made me chuckle....



I love the "Won't Mom be so proud?" bit at the end. Awesomeness.

I know I have some e-mails to tend to. If you're waiting on a reply from me for something or have e-mailed me recently, I'll get to it soon. I had a crazy busy weekend and this week is shaping up to be pretty damn busy, too. :) Which is great. I love being busy and having a lot to do.

Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving and a good weekend!

Happy Monday!

I'm thankful for...

It's Thanksgiving Day!

The Boyfriend has to work today so bummer there.

I don't usually do these types of posts but I'm going to do a post on what I'm thankful for. :) It might seem cliche to do but whatever. There's nothing wrong with doing a little tribute to what you have to be happy about in life.

I'm thankful for....

-Having a job. This time last year, I didn't. I'm still recovering financially from being out of work for a year. It's getting better, though.

-My family, my great friends and wonderful boyfriend. I listed them all together because there are a lot of similar reasons that I'm thankful for them all. Even though we (family, friends, boyfriend) don't always get along, we're still there for each other when we need to be. Shoulders to lean on; ears that listen; mouths that offer advice, caring words, humor, honesty and encouragement. Plenty of fun times, long conversations, hugs, laughs, arguments, tears cried, moral support, drunken nights and so much more has been shared and lived. I have some really great people in my real life.

-My youngest brother's ability to always make me laugh and put on a smile on my face and he doesn't even usually have to try. He's also one of the most caring people I know at 15 and I wish more people were like that.

-I know some really great people in the online world, too. My friends in blogland that have helped me out when I needed it. Be it sending me a gift card or just listening to me whine about something and everything in between; I appreciate it.

-Improved relationships. First... My younger sister and I have such a great relationship now and I'm thankful for that. That wasn't always the case but we got over that. She's a wonderful person with a great heart. Seeing how my mom and her oldest sister don't get along always makes me a little sad. I don't understand why and it's none of my business either but seeing family not get along at all just makes me sad. I'm thankful that when my sister and I are in our 40's and 50's that we won't just tolerate each other. Second.. My boyfriend. We've had a rough go of it lately but we manage to work through things and stay together. I was at a breaking point recently and I was so upset because I wasn't sure where we were going but I knew I couldn't keep going as we were. We're working through it and for that, I'm thankful. He understands me better than anyone and I want more than anything for us to be able to keep always communicating and working through our problems along the way. We're worth it.

-Sports. It sounds cheesy but I am thankful for that, too. I'd be sad as hell if I had sports taken away from me. Watching and playing. I get so much enjoyment from both, it's great.

-Sweet Lemon Peace Tea. That is the best tea in a can. Ever.

-My boss. He's incredibly flexible and understanding about things and I appreciate that more than he knows.

-Books, writing, sketching and music. For without those things, I'd probably drive myself crazy without outlets to let myself get lost in.

-Coffee and big mugs. Enough said.

-A warm bed to sleep in every night. It might not always have the one I love in it with me but at least I always know at the end of the day that I have somewhere to go and a warm bed to sleep in.

-Strength. For having enough of it to overcome the obstacles I've worked my way through in the last year.

There are more things in my life that I'm thankful for but, if I list everything? I'll be here typing for the next hour at least, lol. So... I do have a bit more to add in the thankful department, though.

I'm thankful that the Stars held on to their asses and pulled off that win against Ottawa last night. The last half of that 3rd period had me cringing and biting my nails. Yes, I get damn into watching my teams play. :D

I am also thankful to those of you who have donated money to help with my Toys for Tots fundraiser. Whether you donated $1, $5, $20, $50, etc; I truly appreciate you helping me out with this. Osbasso has up a special something something about the Fundraiser on his blog today, too. The something something is NSFW in a way so if you're sadly working today or surfing the web around family, might want to hold off on that. ;D He also has a wonderful tribute to his late father up with that as well. You should go check out the post. Also, if you've posted about it and I didn't get you in the last post where I thanked people for pimping the cause out; please email me the link to the post. amorousrocker [at] gmail [dot] com. And there's still plenty of time to donate if you haven't and want to. Or, if you don't want to donate to me? Fine. I urge you to find something to give a few dollars to. Most people don't realize or believe that a couple dollars here and there really adds up and DOES make a difference.

That's it for today.

I hope everyone has a Happy Thanksgiving if you're celebrating and if not, have a wonderful Thursday! :)

XoXo

Aw, you're in love! Let me go throw up now.

On Facebook and Twitter, I notice things like this:

"My girlfriend brought me a Red Bull up to work on her way home from work. She's so thoughtful, I'm lucky. Yeah ok, stop rolling your eyes at the screen now."

"My husband is so sweet, he got me flowers and my favorite drink from Starbucks this afternoon for no reason. Yes I know, we're one of those sticky sweet disgusting couples and we don't care."

"My boyfriend is cooking me dinner tonight yay! So sweet. I'm going to make him cookies tomorrow. Totally vomit inducing from the cute, I know."

And then the statuses that are just like that without the insult added to them.

"Amy made me my fave breakfast this morning. I love her."

Followed by comments like:

"You guys are disgustingly sweet. *puke*"

And it got me thinking....

Sure, when the person is constantly like "omg so in love" and "my significant other is so amazing" every single day; it does get a little annoying. It gets old. You're happy, you have a wonderful person in you're like, etc. No need to boast about it multiple times a day, every day. The over the top people that are completely obnoxious aren't what I'm talking about, though. (And even so, who cares? Ignore it if it chaps your ass that bad.)

There's nothing wrong with doing it from time to time. Sometimes my boyfriend does something particularly sweet and I want to share it.

Like the other day for example. We don't see each other much because our schedules are so opposite and we don't have the same nights off. I live with him and hardly spend any time with him. He got home the other day around 5:30 am from work. He had breakfast for me. A Belgian waffle and strawberry creamcheese*. Which was awesome and totally thoughtful of him. I ate and he promptly passed out after I was done and we had chatted a while.

My point is, why would people rather see you posting/tweeting about negativity and drama over being happy and love? That annoys me more than the lovey dovey people and their daily posts of sweetness. What does it say about a person when they would rather see a posting about drama or something negative over something sweet?

Sure, it can get annoying. Sure, if you're single it can make you feel bad, lonely, etc. But to be rude about it? To get unhappy or nauseated over a friend, family member, aquintaces, etc happiness seems silly.

I guess I just hate that as a general rule, the bad things tend to get more attention. The bullshit in light gets focused on more. I'd rather see someone post about they're girlfriend/boyfriend/etc being awesome once daily over someone whining for the 569th time about how their boss is an asshole or how much they hate their job or about how tired they are of someone something etc.

I don't have a problem with people using social media to bitch, either. I do it. I think we all do. I'm not saying you shouldn't use it to bitch. Go for it if you need to.

If you're just giving a friend some good natured ribbing about their "vomit inducing" status; fine I guess. I just hate seeing people preclude their updates with "yes, we know we're gross" because they know it's coming anyway.

I also just don't get why people get so put out with the love and happiness updates and tweets. I always figure if something really bothers me enough, I can just ignore it. It's not that hard to do and it works pretty well. Easy and effective? Win.

*I eat my waffles with creamcheese over butter and syrup. Strawberry creamcheese is my favorite to use on waffles. :)

Happy Tuesday!

BAWLS, STARS, TOYS, ETC...

Last week was ROUGH. Mentally, emotionally,draining, stressful, blah blah blah. Just rough, all the way around. Here's hoping this week is better. :)

The Stars play the Toronto Maple Leafs tonight, in Toronto. They're having a rough time winning games on the road. If this happens to be the case for tonight's game, that might just make me sad, lol. I'm not saying the Leafs suck mind you, just that, you know, my Stars are better. :D

I'll be at work during the game but eh, what else is new? I'm always at work. Even yesterday (Sunday's are my day off) I ended up working an extra shift. It's not like my boss just tacked it on me. I did offer to pick it up since there was a need. And I need the money. On the way there, I was wishing I had just turned it down. It wasn't a very long shift anyway and I should have just enjoyed getting a night off and used it relaxing. And doing laundry, cleaning and all the other stuff I don't ever have time to do that all need doing, lol. So, my next day off is Thanksgiving. At least I get that day off. The Boyfriend has to work, so... yeah. Suckage.

The day after Thanksgiving is Little Sister's birthday. Friday she'll be 20. I seriously can't believe she's turning 20. That's insane, I swear she was just turning 13. Or some such much younger number than that, lol.

I got some awesome (and warm) fuzzy socks. Three pairs for $3. I do love me some socks, especially cozy ones for a good price. I have so many pairs of socks. I love socks and hats like so many woman love shoes I guess. I have less than 5 pairs of shoes. I have more than 30 hats and I don't even know how many pairs of socks. The fuzzy, super comfy ones I'm wearing right now are purple and baby blue striped. Look at all this color that's seeped into my wardrobe in the last year. Okay, so mainly I've let a little purple, blue and red into my mostly black wardrobe but whatever; it's a start. ;)

If you haven't yet and want to, there's still plenty of time to donate to the Toys for Tots Fundraiser. :) I've updated the post stuck on top of the blog with the link of a newer post wherein I took some pictures of some of the toys I went and got already. Check it out and remember, every few dollars really does help. :)

BAWLS energy drink is 1) fun to say because well, BAWLS! And 2) possibly the most delicious tasting energy drink ever because it doesn't taste like an energy drink. :)

I'm done rambling now, heh.

Enjoy some Nightwish. :)

HAPPY MONDAY!

Sunday Stealing....

Sunday Stealing: Questions a la Randomness, A Meme

What was the last thing you put in your mouth?: Milk.

How late did you stay up last night and why?: On Friday, 8 AM... which technically was Saturday morning. Having an unpleasant conversation and some crying. Then got up at 1 pm Saturday afternoon to get ready for work. I'm going to sleep after I finish this, probably but it's almost 5 AM Saturday night/Sunday morning. And I'm up this late because I have a lot on my mind and can't sleep. :/

If you could move somewhere else, would you?: Yes. Definitely. I dislike my current living situation and cannot wait until I can afford to move else where.

Have you ever been kissed under fireworks?: Yes. It's really not that big of a deal for me, honestly. I don't get what's special about it.

Do you believe ex’s can be friends?: Depends on how things ended and why. I still have an ex from when I was 17 that I'm friends with. We do fine but we were better friends before we dated, same stood for after, lol.

When was the last time you cried really hard?: Friday, Saturday. I don't cry often honestly but when I do? Sheesh.

What items could you not go without during the day?: Food, water. :D I would hate to be without my cell phone, too. I could deal with it for the day if I had to. I'd also hate to be without music and tea as well for a day.

Who was the last person you visited in the hospital?: My grandpa.

How do you feel about your life right now?: Mostly, I'm happy. Just lately... well. Some areas need some work. :/

If we were to look in your facebook inbox, what would we find?: Messages! :p

Say you were given a drug test right now, would you pass?: Of course.

Has anyone ever called you perfect before?: No, haha. And I'm fine with that. I don't fancy being lied to. :)

Someone knocks on your window at 2:00 a.m.: who do you want it to be?: Publisher's Clearing House telling me they're about to give me an obscene amount of money which would excuse them from being dubbed creepy for knocking on windows at 2 AM.

Do you think too much or too little?: Too much at times and too little at others.

Do you believe in fairy tales?: Nope.

Have you ever licked the back of a CD to try to get it to work?: I probably have at some point in my life. I was also probably drunk during this occurrence.

What’s the largest age difference between yourself and someone you’ve dated?: 10 years.

Have you ever been on a blind date?: NO.

Do you have any friends that you’ve known for 10 years or more?: Yes.

Have you ever had a crush on a teacher?: Hmm... yes, he was a teacher. Not one of mine but still, a teacher.

What song do you want played at your funeral?: I don't know.

Would you tell your parents if you were gay?: My mom knows I'm bisexual so I imagine if I were homosexual, she would know about it.

What would your last meal be before getting executed?: Never ending soup, salad and breadsticks from Olive Garden. They'll keep serving me, I'll keep nibbling and there we go; beat the system.

Do you walk around the house naked?: No... but I don't live alone. When I had my own place I did from time to time.

What do you do as soon as you walk in the house?: Lock the door. :D Aside from that? It varies. If I have bags from the grocery store, I go to the kitchen to sit them down. If I have bags from else where, I go to the appropriate room to sit them down. If I have to pee, I haul ass to the bathroom. If I'm thirsty, I get a drink. Like I said, varies. I never do the same thing in a row once I lock the door, lol. I'm not a very routine kind of person.

Who is the person you can count on the most?: Myself.

What is your favorite Holiday?: Halloween.

Would you ever get plastic surgery?: No.

Have you ever caught a fish?: Yes.

What is the first thing you notice about people?: It varies, lol. Sometimes hair, sometimes clothes, sometimes height, sometimes makeup, sometimes their body language. It's never the same all the time.

What is the farthest you’ve been from home?: Far.

How did you meet your spouse or significant other (or most recent one)?: By saying hi.

Where was the last place you drove (other than home/school/work)?: Grocery store for some ice cold milk for my cereal. Mmm.


Unrelated to this post, here's a video. It's lovely. The music, not the "video" itself, lol.

Happy Sunday, y'all!

Berating employees is bad form, yo.

"Hey store manager in the loud tie, scolding an employee in front of other employees & customers is unprofessional. No need to make a scene."

I tweeted that on Tuesday. I was in a store getting a few essentials. I was waiting in line for the self check because the other lines were ridiculously long. The employee at the station was standing at her little podium helping answer questions about coupons for a little elderly woman. One of the store managers came up after the woman walked away and started bitching out the employee for not stamping something the way she was supposed to on some form. He went on about how this makes the third time he had corrected her on it, why couldn't she remember something so simple when she could handle more difficult tasks with no issues, how many more times should he tell her before he just gives up on her ability to get it right, she's lucky she won't be getting a disciplinary write up over this, she needs to try harder to be a better employee, she needs to get her head out of the clouds and pay more attention to the small things because they're important to... and, well, you get the idea. The employee did a lot of nodding and looking down at her feet while her boss bitched her out. Loudly. In front of customers and other employees.

I HATE when I see shit like that. It's uncalled for. There's no reason to cause a scene like that. It's embarrassing for the employee. It makes you look like a huge asshole. (True colors shining through maybe?) It's awkward for some people who just get to stand there and go on about their business trying to act like nothing is going on out of the ordinary. And most of all, it's unprofessional.

I work a management position in my current job. We have a small staff of employees because it's a small, independently owned restaurant that's 3 months old and we're not in need of a very big staff yet. It's not my first time in a management position either.

Current job and passed management jobs included....

You want to know how many times I've had an employee royally piss me off because of something they did or said? Or something they didn't say or do? Or anything else?

COUNTLESS TIMES. At my current job alone, one particular guy just pisses me off on a regular basis with his carelessness and lazy attitude.

Want to know how many times I've bitched at an employee in front of customers or other employees?

NEVER.

In my opinion, you don't do that shit. If you have a problem with one of your workers, take them aside and privately let them know what the problem is. You don't have to act like you're they're best friend and try to coddle them while you lay out the problem and what you expect to be done about it but there are professional ways to handle things. Berating them in front of a crowd isn't the way to handle it in my opinion. Embarrass them, make them feel awkward and treat them like shit and they won't respect you and won't want to listen to you thus making you that much more frustrated with them.

I have a bit of a temper on me. I'm on the hot headed side and I admit that. I still don't yell. I get frustrated as hell sometimes. It's hard not to when you're managing a group of people and some of those people like to push buttons, like to slack off, like to not do things they're supposed to because they don't want to, etc. When I get really mad about something, I calm down, then I talk to the employee that needs talking to. In private, away from everyone else.

I know some people get in management positions and they turn into assholes. Oooh, you have some power now. They're special now. They can tell you what to do now. You have to listen to anything they have to say. Blah blah power trip blah blah.

Some people just get enjoyment out of belittling other people. Maybe they're just pathetic and enjoy it. Maybe it makes them feel better about themselves. Maybe there are other reasons behind it.

Some people just have a bad day and too much shit builds up until they snap then take it out on someone. Anyone. Whomever pisses them off at the wrong moment.

Still, all of those reasons are bullshit. You don't treat people that way.

This concludes my rant for today. Seems like I've been doing a bit of ranting lately, lol. On the bright side, at least I'm finding some free time to blog? Right? Right?! Right. :D

Happy Thursday!

P.S. There's totally still plenty of time to go donate to the Toys for Tots fundraiser, y'all! :)

P.P.S. My boyfriend and Little Sister will be seeing the new Harry Potter tonight at a special showing at 7 PM. Be jealous. :D I am, since I wanted to go too but have to work instead, haha.

P.P.P.S. Stars play the Sharks tonight. GO STARS!!!!!

P.P.P.P.S. I'm done now, lol. Bye! :D

Monogamy VS Non-monogamy...

Monogamy vs non-monogamy is something I don't like to discuss but I found myself having a conversation about it yesterday.

Most people that are for monogamy don't often think non-monogamy in it's many forms work at all. They could be against it for religious reasons, moral reasons, or any number of other reasons. Monogamy works for them. You should be with one person in a relationship and only that one person through the duration of the relationship. Multiple partners? Swinging? A husband and a boyfriend? Nope, that can't work. Human relationships are too complex when it's just two people. Adding more to the mix? Disaster. Of course, there will be jealousy. Feelings will be hurt. It just doesn't work.

Most people that are for a form of non-monogamy don't often think monogamy works. It doesn't work for them. It doesn't work for so many people they know. Humans just aren't meant to be with only one person. It's biological even! It just doesn't make sense to stay with one person. Having a wife and a girlfriend works just fine for us. My husband and I going to swinger events and finding mates to play with is great for us. There are so many different ways to do non-monogamy and it's not wrong, not at all. It's not weird and there's nothing wrong and it does work. Monogamy is so outdated. Monogamy doesn't work. If you want to be "stuck" in a relationship with one person and only that person? You must be kidding yourself.

I get so sick of people for monogamy going on about how it's the way to go. The only way to go.

I get so sick of people for any form of non-monogamy going on about how well it works for them and thus if you would just try it then hey, it'll work for you too!

My own take on it? Monogamy works.... for some people. It doesn't work for other people. Non-monogamy works.... for some people. It doesn't work for other people. You and your partner have to figure out what works best for both of you. Discuss it openly and honestly and respect the feelings and opinions of your partner. If non-monogamy is something you really want while your partner is dead set on being monogamous? Maybe the relationship needs to be re-evaluated.

I get why people feel a need to defend their choice. Especially if they feel like they're being attacked by it. Turning around and trying to prove to someone why they're wrong and you're right? Doesn't help.

Why can't both sides understand and accept that neither way is the right way or the wrong way? There isn't a way that is right for every single person. It's about what works best for you and just because something works well for you and 159 other people you know doesn't mean it works for the rest of the world.

"It really gets under my skin when someone is convinced their single experience is tantamount to the entire topic, period." (Thank you, Tragic. ;D)

Happy Wednesday.

P.S. I'm not saying that every person who has ever had this discussion, wrote a post on it, etc handles it in such a narrow minded manner as "this is wrong, I am right" but it is handled in such a way by a huge percentage. On both sides.