Shave your pubes and I'll shave my facial hair.

I was sitting in a coffee shop recently, sipping on a drink and half assed flipping through a magazine I didn't have much interest in. I had an hour break and had most of that time to kill since I had taken all of 10 minutes to eat the sandwich I had brought to work for my lunch. There was a couple sitting off to my right side that kept having little heated discussions. Mostly, they didn't really interest me so I didn't pay them much attention. Then....

The Girl: "Well, you know you should have some fucking consideration for me. I have to kiss you and feel your stubble all over my face, which I dislike. I agree that your stubble is soft and not course so it's not scratching me up but it does tickle because it's so soft. So still, it annoys me. Why don't you just shave your damn facial hair so I don't have to deal with it? Your hairy fucking face is unpleasant to me."

The Guy: "You know, your hairy vagina is unpleasant for me when I go downtown on you but do you hear me bitch at you to shave so it's more pleasant for me? I don't like your course pubic hairs in my mouth, scratching my face, or anything else but I don't request or demand or even suggest you shave or even trim that jungle up on my behalf. Show me that same courtesy please and stop nagging me about my facial hair."

After that, she sat there mouth hanging open for a few seconds before she picked up her paperback and smacked him in the arm with it. Then called him an asshole and ended up yelling at him loudly enough that the manager came over and asked them to leave.

I managed to suppress my chuckles over his response. The guy at the table next to me and his female companion? Not so much. They both burst out into laughter and then continued to have a conversation about what had happened after the couple had been asked to leave.

I agree with the guy, though. I don't really think that was the right place for the conversation and definitely not as loudly as they were speaking but I digress. My point here isn't about the conversation being had in public, causing a scene, him being an asshole, conversations better had in private, etc. My point is focused on the point the guy was trying to make to his companion. If a guy suggests they shave or otherwise remove the hair (legs, arms, pubic region, etc) from their bodies, a lot of women end up insulted, angry or annoyed. Which is fine to get annoyed at because no one has to shave if they don't want to and no one should make someone feel bad about their decision to be hairless or not. Yet so many of those same women will nag the pants off a guy to get rid of his facial hair because they don't like it.

How is it any different? The way I see it, it's not. Aside from location that is. ;) They may not be thrilled with your mass of pubic hair, hairy legs, etc. but if they're not saying anything, why bother them about their hair? Especially if you wouldn't shave for them yet expect them to shave for you?

Of course, if your guy nags you about your shaving habits or tries to make you feel bad about the decision you make; you should probably let him know he's being a prick and hopefully he'll be more respectful about it.

We all have things we're less than thrilled with when it comes to our significant others. You're not going to like everything they do and some things I just don't think are worth picking at. I guess I just don't get what is to be gained over nagging them over things that are silly when you could spend the time more positively. Or possibly addressing more important issues that need attention.

Feel free to share your thoughts. :)

Happy Wednesday!