I hate when people try to cheer someone up or encourage them by saying, “stop, you’re perfect the way you are.” If that person is hating things about themselves, telling them they’re perfect that way isn’t the best way to make them feel better. Also, they’re not going to believe your cliche false comment anyway. No one is perfect. You want to really help? Tell them actual positive things that aren’t stupid.
Tell them they have a great sense of humor and you love how they make you laugh.
Tell them how you admire how creative they are.
Tell them how smart they are.
Tell them how they make the best cookies you’ve ever had.
Tell them they have pretty eyes.
Tell them you love the way they tell a story.
Tell them they’re stronger than they think they are.
Tell them something that’s TRUE and not something that reeks of fairytale happy ending bullshit.
That way when they think about it after you say it, they know you’re being genuine. And maybe, they’ll start to believe it and you will have actually helped them a little bit.
Telling someone they’re perfect to try and encourage them is just so stupid and unoriginal. Thinking up something specific about them that you like or think is great might be harder but it will mean more.
Happy Friday!
3 comments:
That's amazing actually. You're right: some people don't want sugar-coating. All they want is to vent; don't try making them feel like life is gonna change or everything's okay as it is.
Just listen.
Thank you for your honesty & words!
Exactly!
Thank you. Glad you enjoyed the post. :)
The most intelligent thing I've read today xx Ava
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