I will be the death of you... =D

I was talking with a friend of mine, we'll call him Fangs, Thursday night and we got on the subject of love. He was telling me that his girlfriend of over six months told him about a week ago that she wants to be with another guy sexually but she wants to maintain her relationship with Fangs. He's bisexual but she doesn't want a threesome. She just wants to do this other guy on the side. Fangs isn't the type to do an open relationship like that. He believes no matter what the gender of the person he's in a relationship with, it needs to be monogamous. She doesn't want a relationship with this other guy, she just wants to fuck him for a while and then be done with it. Fangs isn't okay with that. It doesn't make him a prude in my eyes. His girlfriend however says he's being a prude and unfair to her. She's been pushing it, asking him at least twice a day every day since she talked to him about it why he won't be fine with it. Along with other things she's said. I asked him if she realized it was unfair of her to push this and be rude (read: a bitch) about it when he's clearly told her that he isn't okay with it and doesn't want it happening. He said he told her something similar but that she still reasoned he was the one being unfair. That he was repressing her sexuality and only saying no to be mean. That she would allow him to fuck someone else if he wanted to. He asked me if I thought she would be likely to cheat on him if he didn't cave in. I asked him if he would be bitter and angry about it if he did give in and tell her to go for it. He said he probably would. I told him I didn't know if she would cheat or not. Only she could answer that. He stopped talking with me after about another hour of talking and went to talk with her about some other things.

I'm not against having an open relationship, threesomes or things like that. To each their own you know? I'd be a bit of a hypocrite to bash such things based on my own personal history and what not. ;) Lol. I think if it's not something your partner is okay with, it's not cool to push them on it. That's something you should talk about and figure out if you're going to be compatible over or not. Relationships are complicated and hard enough work as it is.

An hour later, he texted me to ask if I was busy and if I could get online to talk. Basically, she's going to do it anyway. According to her. She doesn't see why it's a big deal. It's just sex. She isn't emotionally cheating on him. She doesn't have feelings for this other guy. Just lust and the want to screw him senseless "five or ten times" and then be done. If she's going to do it anyway and he's going to be hurt by it, I asked if he would stay with her or not. He said he wasn't sure. He cares about her a lot and said he felt like he was really falling for her but if this was going to be something that happened with her, he might as well end it now and save himself from future grief, arguments and heartache.

I agreed with him ending it. If he's not going to be able to handle it, he should end it now before he develops deeper feelings for her. He'll only end up more hurt in the end. If she's going to do it anyway, in my opinion, it's disregarding his feelings which is pretty rude, uncaring and pretty damn selfish of her. It's not something he is ever going to be okay with and that's fine. It's nice to see that some people still believe in being loyal to one person, that some people still believe in having a monogamous relationship.

I don't know many couples who are monogamous anymore. Real life and in the blogger world, I know more couples who have some form of an open relationship or more where one or both parties are cheating on the other as opposed to couples who are committed, loyal and monogamous.


Anyway.... I start the job tonight. I work 5 pm to 2 am all weekend. Unless the schedule changes but hopefully it doesn't. I'm damn broke and need to start making money again. I might even meet some cool people out here to hang out with. Not that anyone will replace any of my awesome friends but, it wouldn't hurt to have a person or two to chill with while I'm living out here.

I started reading "Blood Noir" by Laurell K. Hamilton last night. I've had it over a month, had it since it came out actually but I've been a *little* bit too busy to get to it until now. I'm having a bit of an issue getting in to the beginning of the book. It's not bad, it's good, very good. There is the problem. That's probably a little confusing but I'd prefer to not expound upon that further. ;)

I need to find somewhere to jog. The roads around here are too congested and also lacking in a sidewalk. I'm not jogging in dirt and grass and hurdling fences, sorry, lol. I found a place that's five minutes from my new job though. A fitness center. It's $99 for a three month trial. I'm thinking about checking that place out. I'd have to go during the day, probably before work though and I'm not sure I want to do that. A good work out followed by an 8 to 10 hour shift where I will be on my feet almost constantly? Meh. We'll see. There are two other places I want to look in to. One is a little more expensive but they're open 24 hours a day which would work better given that I'll be working until midnight and later. I'd prefer to get off work and then work out. It's a twenty minute drive to work so I don't want to drive to work out early in the day, go home, drive back for work and then drive home. *Sigh* I'll get something figured out. =D First, I need the money before I can join anywhere, lol. I doubt my charm will be sufficient for payment.

I want to try archery. I have no idea why. It's just something I always thought would be cool to try at least once. I don't see where it would be particularly useful as I don't hunt and would get in trouble for shooting random, obnoxious asshole with the arrows just because they were annoying or pissing me off. So, I don't have much use for learning to do it other than I want to. It might be fun and also might be relaxing. If not, oh well.

By the way, is hockey season back yet?..... No? Fuck. =( Lol.

Have a great weekend y'all!!!